tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195118970059599158.post1411945270104647343..comments2023-06-25T03:36:23.277-07:00Comments on The life of a pioneering photographer.: Osho's new man.Michel Szulc Krzyzanowskihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01206870014691669677noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195118970059599158.post-22648089070680784952007-03-02T20:54:00.000-08:002007-03-02T20:54:00.000-08:00Hmm. Not how we did it. We fell into infatuation, ...Hmm. Not how we did it. We fell into infatuation, got pregnant, <B>then</B> got married, then got pregnant again and had 2 kids before one of us was 23. Been married happily now for 24 years and raised two great kids, even though we both had to finish growing up and dealing with our histories during our marriage.<BR/>How did that work? Well, we both have such strong religious beliefs (not strong enough to keep from getting pregnant, but strong enough to make the right decision when we take the time to think before we act!) that neither of us would have ever considered divorce to be an option. So whenever we had problems, the only issue was <B>how</B> we would solve it rather than <B>whether</B> we would solve it. That's worked out great!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195118970059599158.post-48652937389475522502007-03-02T11:31:00.000-08:002007-03-02T11:31:00.000-08:00Hi Michael.....I found your blog through Tioga Geo...Hi Michael.....I found your blog through Tioga George, and have enjoyed reading your many thoughtful, philosphical posts.<BR/><BR/>On your current topic...."Osho's New Man"....what you relate about men and women having children before their histories are dealt with is so true. This is what the dating/courtship period is about. Many rush into marriage before they really know the other. It seems to take 1 1/2 to 2 years for this process to take its course. Unless the man and woman choose willfully to turn a "blind eye" to issues with each other, hoping those "problems" will get better, or improve after marriage, it is possible to marry and have children early in the marriage. If we ignore the problems, they will only get worse after marriage, not better. It seems that too many today marry thinking they can "change" their marriage partner, or that their "love" will make the other better. Not possible...doesn't work. Unless you marry someone loving them just as they are with all their positives and their short comings, eccentricities, etc. the marriage will probably fail. <BR/><BR/>All things being equal the best coupling for a baby is a man and a woman living in a committed, loving relationship. Each (male/female) has something different, and valuable to offer a child that the other cannot. On the otherhand, all things still being equal, and a child is stranded in an orphanage, or foster home and two men, or two women, or one man, or one woman, or a married man and woman adopts them, then wonderful. It is now in this child's best interests to have a loving parent, or parents, regardless of sex. But to intentionally bring a child into the world at birth and intentionally deny him, or her a loving mother and father is not in the baby's best interests. The only really important issue here is what is best for a baby/child, not what is best for adults.<BR/><BR/>Repectfully submitted.....Clarke HockwaldAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com