There is a second chapter to the issue that was the subject of yesterday's posting.
That was about physical violence in a relationship coming from the woman directed towards the man.
A lot could be said about the woman becoming physically violent but that is a matter that concerns her.
The man involved in this should not bother with that initially.
That can wait until a possible later evaluation performed by the two protagonists.
The man should focus fully on the emotions inside his heart that are initiated by the actions of the woman .
Like the anger that may arise coming from her agression.
Or rage.
Or the urge to become physical violent also.
It is a matter of remaining centred.
To be able to be a spectator of the own emotions.
Instead of drowning in the own emotions and to be carried away by them.
This recommended method is easy to put in words.
But it is a different story when hell breaks loose.
When the coffee pot is smashed against the wall.
When there is screaming and yelling.
When there is accusing and insulting.
In that situation to remain calm and centred is a godlike task.
It is the only way though.
To neutralize the situation.
And to create the circumstances to have calm return.
To be able to evaluate together and have understanding for the outburst.
To reach new grounds for life together.
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2 comments:
Even rats when confined together in too small a space become aggressive with each other, and so maybe the Fuso is just too small for two, even if one is the Queen of Dreams.
Also, if one feels that one's space has been invaded, that can be an uncomfortable situation as well. Even if the male and the female in this scenario care for each other.
When the other person, regardless of their sex, becomes physically violent and is breaking things, it is time to cut them loose. Remaining in such a relationship says much about the person choosing to stay - like that they do not have the self-esteem to recognize that they deserve to be treated with kindness and love most of the time and, when that is not possible, at least with respect for person and property. This should be the bear minimum requirement for remaining in ANY relationship.
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