One of the most painful issues between a man and a woman is physical violence.
When it comes to this, somehow other forms of communication have failed.
And out of frustration reaching each other comes to be physical violence.
Now, when the man beats the woman, what he never should do no matter what, the man has an advantage.
Usually he is the physical stronger and the woman is weaker.
She has no effective defences and this is recognised in the civil laws of most countries.
Where men who beat up women go to jail.
But what happens when it is the woman who becomes physically violent?
That she gets so angry and misunderstood and frustrated and upset and hysterical that she loses all control and physically attacks the man?
An immediate issue arises in that case.
If a woman attacks physically a man, is the man entitled to respond with physical violence also?
The answer is simple: absolutely not.
He should try to neutralize the physical attack.
And move the interaction into calmer non-violent waters.
This is the absolute obligation of the man.
There are no excuses.
However, this puts the man in a most responsible position.
When it comes to physical violence between a man and a woman there usually is a history of emotional confrontations.
That have been expanding each time losing any reasonability and that are filled with high and extreme emotions.
On both sides.
Hence, probable is that the intensity of the emotions of the woman is matched by the intensity of the emotions of the man.
The woman though can let go of all control and apply physical violence.
But the man, in the same intensity of emotions, must choose somehow to remain rational and controlled.
The question then is, whether the man is able to do so.
He feels the emotions raging through himself.
He feels the physical violence of the woman.
But he must remain rational and controlled.
Is this humanly possible?
Maybe yes.
Maybe no.
Maybe this time he can.
Maybe next time he cannot.
Therefore, a man that gets into this situation can better not rely on his expectation that his rationality and control are always effective.
This is way too dangerous.
Overestimating the own will-power can make the man end up in prison.
And with a lifelong trauma.
The man can chose the safest way out of this unfortunate situation of being with a physically violent woman.
Which is to get the hell out of there.
Far away from her.
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3 comments:
It's not easy being a man sometimes, but it must be the rule anyway.
Unless of course, the particular man is not physically superior, then he can defend himself.
It is not at all uncommon for woman-to-man physical violence is be directly related to mental illness.
Man-to-woman violence is typically a sign of uncontrolled testosterone influenced thinking or non-thinking. Or worse yet, chemical influence. But woman-to-man violence is a different creature.
But that is much more rare than emotional trauma which women can inflict upon men. With men, this is unfortunately considered a sporting event to emotionally beat a woman, but the other way around is usually a form of war.
Turning 61 years of age soon, I recall a school picture diary from my 5th. grade of elementary school. The back of this booklet gave friends and family a chance to write "noteworty" memos for future reflections by myself. My Grandfather wrote a simple statement I really did not understand at the age of 11 years young, but the statement totally parallels your final comment in todays post. He said, "The best way to fight a woman is to grab your hat and run". This was wise words from a wise man.
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