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When a child is born it has no rights yet on its body.
It is the total property of the parents.
And for good reasons.
A child does not know yet how to take care of the body.
How to feed it.
How to clean it.
How to please it.

So the parents give it food.
The parents bath the child.
The parents apply a diaper after cleaning the baby's bottom.
And they tickle it under the chin.

A young child therefore has no physical privacy.
And no personal connection yet with the body.
It is not in baby's hands but in Daddy's and Mommy's.

Growing up step by step the body becomes the property of the child.
The parents want to make it more easy for themselves and teach and instruct how for example the child can eat independently.
But the parents keep on having the exclusivity of access to the child's body.
When it is naughty, a parent might uncover the child's bottom and serve a good spanking.

When the child becomes adolescent it starts to turn away from the parents and look for an independent life with an own personality.
To emphasize this development the adolescent slowly takes the free access to the body away from the parents.
Bathing for example becomes a private activity with the bathroom door closed and locked.

But the fact that for years the body has been the exclusive property of the parents is deep into the psychological system of the person.
And can blockade a landing in the own personality.
It can become responsible for a girl to remain "daddy's darling".
Or "mother's pride" for the son.

To truly find one self and to really become an independent person one must disconnect from the remnants the parents have implanted: the body must become the total and undeniable property of the owning person only.

An excellent way to achieve this is through sexuality with a partner.
Because then the exclusivity of the access to the body by the parents can be broken.

For example, many people introduce in their sexuality with a partner a light form of spanking.
They enjoy and become excited when the partner spanks the bare bottom.
This has a lot of meaning because it is now not only the father or the mother who was doing this in the life of the protagonist, but by allowing a partner to do the same, the parents become members of a club.
They are not the only ones anymore and therefore spanking changes from something only the father or the mother could do to an activity that is open and free.
Most important, it also has been transformed from a punishment of dramatic proportions when it was applied by the parents, to an activity that brings joy, excitement and satisfaction.

Another example is the anus.
Parents touch the child's anus to clean it during several years.
It is a part of the body that keeps one of the strongest ties to the parents.
Therefore, to really become independent and an individual, it is vital to bring the anus out of its isolation and introduce it into a relationship with a trusted partner.
For it to be touched, caressed, licked and penetrated to destroy the link it keeps with the parent.
And to find intense pleasure and satisfaction there after its status has been changed.

Persons who are in a relationship with sexual activity and limit the options available, are not really delivering themselves to the other person, to themselves and the situation.
They remain the daughter or the son of the parent and are unable to be a real independent person.
They keep the intimacy of the body for themselves.
Unable to share and to open because of the ties with the parents.
It is like the father and the mother are in between the person and the lover.
The person remains a child.
And limits the joy, satisfaction and pleasure for themselves and the partner.
Often unable therefore to have orgasms.

When one understands this principle of the necessity to break the link between a person and the parent on a physical level, an exciting prospect is waiting.
With the right partner the body and its options in sexuality can be explored.
The wildest fantasies can become reality.
Feelings of guilt, shame and shyness evaporate.
Pure satisfaction is found and orgasms like earthquakes.
One has changed from a child to an adult.
Bravo.



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